Whoa. THERE ARE SO MANY RANTS OCCURRING ON MY BLOG.*
I think that over the internet, it’s difficult to remember that WE ARE ALL HUMANS, NOT JUST COMPUTERS / READING MACHINES, and we really do have feelings.
WE ARE FRAGILE AND EASILY CHIPPED. And sometimes, saying rude things can be like throwing a teapot (the blogger) against a wall and shattering them (and their emotions).
So let’s go through somethings that you SHOULDN’T be saying on the internet!
I think that sometimes we all forget that outside blogging, WE ALL HAVE THINGS GOING ON, and mean little comments can really effect someone. ESPECIALLY since so many bloggers are self-conscious of their BEAUTIFUL blogs and PEOPLE FORGET THIS.
*jk every post is a rant.
Don’t OVERLY Critique Their Posts / Design.
We GET that you’re trying to be helpful, and it’s feedback in order to TRY AND HELP, but what you don’t want to be doing is telling the blogger that they’re doing something WRONG and make them feel BAD.
“Cool post. But maybe divide your text up more. I got so bored reading that paragraph, and double check sentence length because you kinda rambled. Also, include more gifs to make it better and more exciting. And your featured image kinda sucks, so work on that too. Checkout my blog at http://www.HOWABOUTNO.wordpress.com”
If someone left me that comment, I would genuinely boil like an egg. Like, what right do they have to just pop up only blog and critique everything?
What would be okay (if you’ve known the blogger and THEY ASK for your help):
“Maybe, include more dividers?? It could bring some more colour into your posts and make a really cool overall theme to your blog!”
Isn’t that a bit nicer??
“Your Blog Is SO dull!”
I couldn’t imagine EVER saying this to someone, let alone how RECEIVING this would make me feel!! LIKE!! HOW!! COULD!! SOMEONE!! SAY!! THIS!!
Don’t Just Leave Links To Your Blog!
*SCREAMS IN ANGER*
Honestly, this makes people’s blood BOIL. We understand, we want to grow our blogs just like you do, BUT we are people??*
SO MAYBE INTERACT A BIT??**
It’s kinda rude to just assume that people are gonna check out your blog. And, to be honest, if you just leave a link and don’t want to try and actually talk to me like I’m a real human and treat me nicely, there’s even more chance THAT I WILL NOT BE FOLLOWING YOUR BLOG.
Even comments that are like “Cool post. http://www.LinkToMyBlog.wordNO.com” sort of annoy me?? like?? DID you not really read my post?? YOU’RE LITERALLY JUST SAYING “COOL POST” TO BE A BIT NICER ABOUT IT. I SEE WHAT YOU’RE DOING.***
We are humans, treat us like we’re humans. thx.
*At least I think that I am? **NOT THAT DIFFICULT?? ***we notice these things!!!
Don’t Shame Someone For Having A Different Opinion To You.
here is a world.
with lots of people.
they are all unique.
some have similar opinions.
some do not.
that is okay.
I SHOULD BE A POET.
Don’t Be Offensive!
This is a given really.
But don’t be racist, or homophobic or discriminatory, or “fat” shame, or ANYTHING. Like I see this, (not on my blog, but on twitter etc) and I get so sad. It’s just not okay. Ever. Just be a nice human pls.
AND. If you have a problem with what someone says, either DISCUSS in a POLITE way, or simply, virtually, walk away and UNFOLLOW.
Just try and avoid conflict??? This is a really lovely community and over the past few months I have seen FARRR too much drama, whether it’s on twitter, yt, or gr.
If you think that someone has said something that’s rude, don’t snap. Stay calm, don’t read into things and inadvertently cause an argument. Maybe they wrote it the wring way???? THIS HAPPENS SOMETIMES* Ask what they’re trying to say, and discuss it nicely with them. If they don’t STOP and are getting progressively rude. . . either block them, or ignore them and don’t provoke.
*I’M TERRIFIED OF WRITING SOMETHING THE WRONG WAY and upsetting people!!
Don’t Say That They Don’t Post Enough / Don’t Put In Enough Effort.
This is basically what you’re saying when you say that someone doesn’t post frequently enough: they aren’t living up to your standards, and they aren’t putting enough effort into their blog.
Firstly, no blogger is there to live up to YOUR expectations. So don’t pressure them. I—and so many other bloggers— know what it’s like to put pressure on yourself to post. So please please please don’t complain that they aren’t posting enough!!
And (2) they may just really busy, so maybe, they’ll post less, but then that means that they have less pressure and then they can eventually come back to blogging when they feel ready to. And (3), they may be really struggling with blog ideas, so. . . don’t just assume that they’re being really lazy with their blog.
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