Coming-Out-Series (P3): An LGBT+ Review (AUTOBOYOGRAPHY) Internalised Homophobia, Self Acceptance, Love and Religion All In One.

I am dying of emotions, but 1) that’s nothing new, 2) it’s worth it.

13/10 recommend the experience.

May recommended this read to me, and it did not disappoint! I think that I’ll be rereading this until I die* because it was too good to let go of. (Hence why I read it, and then reread it)

I just. This book was amazing, and it will honestly be one of my TOP reafs for the rest of time. It’s so powerful, it’s a hard read, but MY MY MY**, that only makes it better.


*ie when I think of this book again… **yes. that is a Troye Sivan reference. EMBRACE IT.IMG_1882

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– great plot/premise -> BOTH WRITERS AND JGSJG

– I can’t even with how cute this is while also dealing with a lot of heavy topics.


– This was so hard to read at times

– Internalised homophobia and links with religions/beliefs.

All the characters were so well developed!! Even side characters!! WHICH WE HARDLY SEE SO THIS WAS AMAZING.

– Tanner’s parents were SO developed and supportive of their son and that was great.

– Basically, a heartbreaking book that made me cry an awful lot.

– this was beautiful

– I totally don’t have a twitter thread dedicated to quotes… DEFINITELY NOT.

– Not everyone was great all the time but Tanner had character development and SEBASTIAN. SO. MUCH. DEVELOPMENT. I feel like a proud mother, okay? I just. Sebastian is everything. He’s such a cutie.

– everyone read this book.


 jUST. precious.

Tanner’s voice was AMAZING and strong and comedic and POWERFUL. And the book… was the book he was writing for class?? IM PRETTY SURE?????????????? Tanner is all feel-first-think-later and I LOVE that about him. He’s impulsive, but a cute ‘ol cinnamon roll and DID I MENTION FUNNY?

Sebastian was polite and thoughtful and basically perfect BUT 100% did not stand up for his own emotions. HES THE SWEETEST.


Sebastian struggled with INTERNALISED HOMOPHOBIA

It b r o k e me when he told Tanner that he wasn’t gay “I’m not… that.” because of what his religion believes about homosexuality. He “wouldn’t choose that” and it discussed in the book how some Mormons believe that it is ok to have homosexual thoughts, but not to act upon them and, personally I think that it’s messed up to believe that, but at the same time, cannot undo hundreds+ years of teachings. SUCH A GREAT JOURNEY ABOUT love and religion and self-acceptance and just being whoever the frick you are AND I SHIP THAT.IMG_1882

great rep!!

Tanner, MC, is bi. And Sebastian asks why he wouldn’t just be with a girl is he could, and he replied with something like “it’s not about the parts, it’s about the person” and I think that LGBTQ rep was great b/c when Tann spoke to Autumn, she said, “this feels like a big deal,” and he responded with,“it is a big deal, I’m explaining how my heart beats,” or something like that and I READ THAT AND DIED because it’s such a beautiful way to explain it!!

nO, My HeARt DidN’T JusT SHatTer.

And also: internalised homophobia. SO many people go through it, and it was great to see it represented. Even THOUGH IT’S SO HEARTBREAKING IT NEEDS TO BE SPOKEN ABOUT.


So, you’ve got Tanner’s fam, who all wave the LGBTQ flag and support 1000%.

– Then you have Sebastian’s family who cannot even say the word “gay”.

– What I didn’t like however about Tanner’s family, is that they really encouraged him not to tell anyone that he was bi, because of where they lived (it’s pretty darn conservative and sure, they think that it’s “protecting” their son).

– I think that that really got to Tanner and worsened his own view on things, and I personally think that they should have asked Tanner what HE would have preferred, considering it’s HIS sexuality, and he shouldn’t have had to have hidden it if he didn’t want to.


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There was so much family and LOVE in this book.


He’s so fu*king pure.

But Sebastian’s family? Nooooo, thank you.

They’re VERY devout Mormons. And what I loved was that there was so much talk about Mormons, and it was actually really interesting and learning about some of their beliefs was really great!! BUT. Personally, I have 0% tolerance for religions that think that being queer is a sin, and who believe it should be hidden, or “made to go away”.

I think that it’s discussed well, and respectfully, and it didn’t try to demonise the church. And it still showed how they loved their son, and his family were shown as very caring people.

When there was a reference to a Mormon who had gone on to marry his boyfriend, the first response from Sebastian’s mother was “how are his parents?. And it was SO SAD. And I just,,, he’s their son, they should love whether their child is LGBTQ or not. 

It’s hard and brutal to read at times and it was so so so sad. It’s so emotional, and does NOT agree with the church, but it does NOT paint the Mormon community as bad people, but it does disagree with their opinion on LGBTQ matters and discusses how of course God loves LGBTQ people because he made them and Sebastian himself had to deal with this because INTERNALISED HOMOPHOBIA and how he didn’t feel that it was wrong and that God still loved him and that was RGNKRNG. MY HEART.

Tanner’s family is wonderful.I don’t agree with ALL they did, I disagreed with some of their attitudes as they were kind of anti- the relationship, but I think that it was all really hard to navigate, and I think that it was really clear that they wanted the best for their son. LIKE HIS MUM LEAVES AROUND PAMPHLETS ABOUT BEING A QUEER TEEN/YOUNG ADULT AND HOW IT’S OK. THAT’S PRECIOUS. And his mum is so wonderful to Sebastian when he’s like,, CRYING AND HIS LIFE IS FALLING APART. But it’s chill… oml it’s SO not chill guys. I’m dying. IMG_1882


  • Has a girl/boy friendship that is complicated…. but good!!
  • I think that there was this part that kinda made it eh… BUT THEY BOUNCED BACK.
  • And that was great!!
  • And I think that Autumn, his BFF, was a really well-developed character and that despite having a few faults, people are never perfect, and on the whole, she was supportive of Tanner and that was great.
  • I read this in a day???
  • I know. This hardly happens.
  • Okay, I feel so guilty b/c… exams. BUT. I hardly even noticed that I was reading it so fast. I was thinking “oh I’ll read the first 50 pages,” AND NOPE. By the time I knew it, I was finishing it and my face was covered in tears and I think I broke my tear-making-whatever and MY EYES ARE STILL PUFFY.
  • This book is full of love, self-acceptance and smol feelings that make me unable to compute.

    boys kissing and biscuit crumbs, and a whole lot of writing and stargazing that thoroughly succeeded in SHATTERING mY HEARt.

Summary: go read it and then come back and flail with me

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Have you read this book? Ok if you answered no, go read it now then and come back and flail with me. What are some of your favourite LGBTQ books? Authors? What are some of your favourite reads recently?  REC ME BOOKS. GO READ THIS ONE. PLEASE. MY HEARRRTTTTT. 

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  2. fasdlkjflkasjdf I’m so so happy you loved this book I LOVED IT. (as you know since I’m the one who screamed at you to read it) and oh my god it BROKE me when Sebastian said he wasn’t gay and that he would like get straight later on just djlfksjdfds. I love my smol babies. I’ve never struggled with that kind of internalized homophobia but I think it was just so powerful to see a queer person get over that and I just. GOD. I love this book so much

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    1. (yes i remember!! ilysm more bc of it!! is that bad? eep)

      fgsdjkgnsjg THAT MOMENT. OMG SO RELATABLE AND HEARTBREAKING I JUST. I’ve never wanted to hug a character more than in that moment. yeah and,,,, he didn’t try and FIX Sebastian straight away, and then BAM Sebastian was FINE WITH HIS SEXUALITY. Like,,, you saw that gradual(ish) progress (acc slow for once!!) of his self-acceptance, and. my. gosh. the. ending. MAYYYY. I just want to read drivvel fluff scenes of them at uni together being happy and domestic with Sebastian writing his books and Tanner’s book published or something and BEING OK. is that crazy? i think it’s REASONABLE? I’m happy, sad, and just straight up crazy (but not straight more like ~~~~~~~~~?~??~?~?`)

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  3. […] Autoboyography by Christina Lauren – 5/5 – this was SO AMAZING. The LGBTQ+ rep from the Bi main character and Gay love interest was amazing, especially with the <big>internalised homophobia, and this book also had a HUGE message about faith and sexuality and how one really can affect the other and specifically on the Mormon faith. SEBAAAASTIAAAAANNNN!! bby!!!  And, it also tackled stereotypes of being Bisexual too, which I thought was great considering that it’s not widely talked about in YA! There was so much heartbreak, so, of course, I had to be killed by this book more than once so I reread it and then reread it again. Review here. […]


  4. great review!! love to see ur enthusiasm abt the book! :>>
    god i read autoboyography back in february, basically in one sitting just like u, stayed up until like 6am or sth to finish it…………. it truly is heartbreaking in all the best ways & yet at the same time – incredibly heartWARMING. i rly loved how gracious the authors were with writing lgbt characters, especially after i learned their fans were asking them for good rep.

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      1. it’s just SO good, isn’t it???? it hits all the right points!
        and i read some reviews by lgbt mormons & ex-mormons and they all agree the rep there is also spot on. which like!! makes me even happier!!
        yeah honestly, it’s one of my favourite books i’ve read this year so far!!!

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    1. Thank you so much!! I HIGHLY RECOMMEND (if that wasn’t already obvious!!) because oh my,, like you, i’d heard so much about it, but bloody hell,, the rawness of this book, and the warm-heart-feeling is ON ANOTHER LEVEL.

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  5. Ahhhhh I haven’t read this yet but I’ve been meaning to and oh my god I need this it sounds wonderful. I thought it’d just be a cute book about writing and boys falling in love but it’s so much more!! Dammit Lu I have no money 😂

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  6. I REALLY want to read this! It sounds like such an important, powerful book! It’s been on my TBR forever, but I just haven’t gotten around to it yet… going to go see if my library has it now.

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  7. So I may have missed it in your review (I’m blogging on my phone so I have to use the WordPress reader app and I don’t think it’s loaded all the pictures) but what is this book called?! I really want to read it after all the incredible things you’ve said about it so I need to add it to my TBR list! 😀
    It sounds amazing, I don’t think I’ve read a book that had a focus on religion and sexuality quite like this one does, and I love that Tanner’s representation as a bi person is addressed the way it is as well. It’s so important to see that in books.
    I love diverse books (we need so many more of them on our bookshelves right?!), stories with incredible characters and strong friendships so I need to check this one out myself.
    Great review Lu. 🙂 ❤️

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    1. It’s called Autoboyography and YOU. NEED. IT. I never thought I’d find a book that would focus so much on religion and sexuality (also, release by patrick ness also discusses it really well and it’s a really intriguing read!!)

      please please pleaaaase read this one when you get the chance!!!

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