Discussion: What Makes Me Comment On A Post, Commenting Expectations (watch me sob) & All The Appreciation for them.

WE’RE ALL THINKING IT:

I used to really suck at this. and now i’ve been commenting a lot more — because (for once) i have the time. i still suck at this. just not as much

I’m still looking for more blogs to follow (link some of your faves below) because i really do have that much time on my hands right now.

But, i think it’s really interesting to see the reasons I would/wouldn’t comment on a post?? there are some trends I’ve been noticing??? So I’d like to point them out, and see if others feel the same!

also: id like to encourage everyone to still take the time to keep educating yourselves about BLM, much like i am at the moment, so we can be the best allies we can be ❤

1. I HAVE THE TIME + MENTAL ENERGY

having the time to blog wasn’t exactly something I had during the school year. I barely had enough time to read and blog, and finding/reading/commenting is a LONG process sometimes.

Plus, being stressed with school, and general life, doesn’t exactly make it easy, and I’m 1000% sure that others feel the same. you HAVE to prioritise your mental health over something that you feel you “have” to do — like commenting which is, really, something you don’t “have to” do it at all.

If I’m feeling eh and all ghghghhsh inside? I probably won’t even look at any posts that day because i want to be excited with people and if i know I won’t be? I’d rather save the posts and catch up when i’m in a good mood!!

2. YOU, AND YOUR EXCITEMENT / PASSION!!

Are YOU shown in your post? Your personality can make ALLL the difference. are you excited???

me, actually reacting to posts where ppl are excited as i am about a book ^

I read some posts and I get so HAPPY because the person who wrote them was passionate and excited!! If you’re enthusiastic it makes it way easier for 1) people to get excited with you 2) you’re approachable!! 

For example, showing some personality and engaging with readers can make a TTT/WWW post (which i personally find that I don’t comment on as frequently) really exciting to read and make me want to comment.

• also, it’s super nice to get a sense of the person BEHIND the screen, because then it’s kind of like talking to someone that you know? you know? and you’re more likely to go back to the blog / engage with the posts in the future!!

this??? is how i show my personality??? and lots of (these) (bad) (boys) because I’m (very) chaotic and don’t make (that much) sense and have (a lot of) things to say (all) at once. and i very frequently just chuck in the occasional sjkgnksjdgjksdngjkgnj because why not?

also can we take a time to talk about passionate reviews??? i LOVE reading those reviews. They 1) make me excited for the blogger 2) make me want to scream with them if i’ve read it too or 3) read the book (and tell them that they’ve made me want to read it!!)

3. PERSONALLY ENGAGED / INFORMATIVE

kinda similar to the last one!!

ie: its a review about a book I want to read and their thoughts intrigue me / they’re my friend (tho pretty sure no one remembers me bc I was gone so long) I relate to what they’re saying, or…

I JUST WANT TO SAY SOMETHING because their post evokes similar feelings for me.

again: using a TTT or WWW post: if they mention books that i LOVE and talk about them and get excited and all srgbkjesgnjskdgjksgjn????

HELLO YOU BET I’M GOING TO SCREAM WITH YOU IN THE COMMENTS!!

BUT on the other hand, if for example, there’s a review (i keep talking about reviews *shrug*) on a book that i didn’t know about, or maybe discussing something that i HADN’T considered before, this can equally capture my attention and make me comment…

as long as other criteria are being met (engaging, excitement, maybe some discussion prompts) i’ll feel like I can comment!! if anything — these are the best ones!!!

because!! it’s telling you something that you didn’t know before!! and that!! is FAR more interesting than hearing something you already knew 1000x before!!

4. AN OPPORTUNITY FOR ACTIVE ENGAGEMENT — DISCUSSIONS

is your post tackling a subject/theme that I can ACTIVELY leave a comment on, rather than saying “ i loved this review *screams about the book*”? (tho those comments are also v appreciated)

As long as these posts aren’t too word-heavy and blocky, I’ll be able to follow along and probably want to continue to read your opinions on a matter and then share mine with you!! I LOVE PEOPLE SHARING OPINIONS.

(read: please don’t have have really long paragraphs more than 4-5 lines on the reader because my attention span is this big [ ] and won’t cope. make it colourful and

like this

so it’s

easier to pay attention)

[maybe not exactly like that b’/c its

super annoying for you to read

isn’t it]

Also: even on regular posts (not discussion posts) if the blogger leaves QUESTIONS at the end of their post, it sometimes makes it way easier to formulate a response to them, and to think of what I want to say.

• FOR EXAMPLE: I will probably 9.8 times out of 10 leave questions at the end of my posts!!

LIKE THIS!!

• for me, it’s just a habit now, but i GENUINELY want to read responses to them and talk to people in the comments!!

5. SUPPORTING YOUR CONTENT!

sometimes, it’s just a nice thing to comment on someone’s post, expecting nothing in return. it’s nice just leaving a comment on someone’s blog, telling them that you liked what you read/you like their blog etc. comments like these can acc really make someone’s day because writing posts takes sm time!!

and it means that their efforts get recognised!! you don’t always have to leave an essay in the comments!!

Commenting doesn’t/should not have strings attached. commenting is not a ‘i commented on your post so now you have to comment on mine‘ situation. like i said with point one, no blogger should feel the ‘need’ to do anything.

JUST NO

The expectation that we put on ourselves is to read every post in our reader, while finding new blogs and reading their posts, and leaving lots of lovely comments, while also talking to bloggers on OTHER platforms, while writing posts and reading books (which takes a lot of time, hello!)

those ^ are expectations that no human can sustain. like,,, we just can’t “networking” and doing all that ^^^^ takes hours. and we have school. or uni. and JOBS. and commitments. and people to see. and stuff to do. like at a m i n i m u m .

we cannot expect everyone who reads our posts to comment all the time.

blogging is a totally personal experience and we should all take into consideration the situations of others!!

What makes you comment on a post? are there specific topics/posts that you seem to comment on more frequently? do you enjoy having discussions in the comments? do you find it easy to comment on discussion posts? do you also have these expectations about how many comments you should be leaving?