The Growing Lack of REALISTIC F/F friendships in YA // Incoherent Babble.

You should know by now that I LOVE to rant. It’s just what I do*

WHOA SHOCK.

And, you may also know from following this blog that I’m PICKY**. I LOVE TO PICK APART RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN CHARACTERS, and this includes friendships too.

One thing that I notice is that in more recent ya female friends always argue. Not just girls, guys too.

AS YOU MAY KNOW:

• I read a lot of fantasy
• I took a very long break from contemporary
• I am slowly getting back into contemporary.

SO I’m going to be talking about this discussing regarding BOTH genres. (TO BE FAIR)

*I also breathe and occasionally take over a galaxy or two. BECAUSE I AM THE QUEEN. **Okay I’m not even that picky??? I like LITERALLY EVERYTHING I read.

Friendships in Contemporary:

In contemporary there’s the stereotype of them falling for the same guy. . . DUN DUN DUN and there being a huggggeeee fall out. Or, friends disagreeing on a “HUGE THING”. Or the friends just easily falling out over little things that don’t usually represent a positive / proper friendship.

And I get it, it needs to be kept interesting. But really?? THE BOOK IS ALREADY A UNIQUE SNOW FLAKE!! DRAMA ISN’T NEEDED!! Or, the friends do something that an average hughschooler would NEVER dot someone. WHAT THEY ARGUE ABOUT IS NOT REALISTIC SOMETIMES.

Like I get it, the book needs to have things that keep it interesting, but URGH drama is so pointless and petty in books!!

ANDDDDDDDDDDD: I think that sometimes friendships are portrayed as cliche sometimes, where they always do really OUT-THERE things and have “OH SUCH A WONDERFUL ADVENTURE” and everyone is okay ALL THE TIME. Or they CONSTANTLY FALL OUT, or get annoyed with each other REALLY EASILY and there’s just not a positive friendship there.

I personally hate drama, in real life AND books. So in books, when there’s needless, petty drama in my head I just scream “ABORT! ABORT! ABORT!”

Friendships in Fantasy:

In fantasy, they see each other as competition and literally take 1/2 the book to warm ip to each other. AND THERE’S 7/10 gonna be some love interest drama there to, or they just see them as a threat and semi warm up to each other after they prove their “worth” “who’s the strongest” “who’s the bravest” etc. . . 

EVEN IF THEY SAVE THEIR LIFE. WHAT??

FANTASY CHARACTER @ A NEW CHARACTER

WHYYY??

I understand that there could be a mistrust between two characters at first, but like HBRDGBLDHG NEGATIVE RELATIONSHIPS!! WHY!!! AND DRAMA!! WHY!!

its!! not!! gonna!! help!! why!! is!! it!! there!!

I think that this really relates to real life. And how lots of girls seem to think that its a competition. Who’s the prettiest, who’s the smartest, who’s got the nicest hair, the nicest eyes, figure, best height. AND THAT’S REALLY SAD.

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Like no. I don’t want to be ranked against anyone else. I want to stand out on my own. and I want other people to stand out of their own too. I don’t see the need for the competition, the competition that the MEDIA shows girls from a young age, of models COMPETING for the lime light, and telling girls that they should look one way or another, do there hair one way or another; Dress one way or another; be the way the media wants you to be. NOT be who ever the heck you want to be.

I think that this (^^^^) is SO PROMINENT IN SO MANY BOOKS??? Like without people evening thinking. Even sometimes by what people WEAR / THIER MAKEUP. In books I always get the image that everyone is always BEAUTIFUL AND ALWAYS LLOK FABULOUS AS I SIT THERE LOOKING LIKE A TROLL.

What do you think of the female friendships in books? Do you think that there’s too much / too little / an okay amount of drama in books? Does drama in books annoy you? Do you not mind it? Let me know!